Elizabeth Stanfill

HAVE FAITH IN YOUR DREAMS!

2012-01-24T07:18:00.001-08:00

Hello there!

It is a great year already, I can feel it in my bones, and in my soul.

So far, I am doing really good on my New Year Resolutions. How bout you?

My resolutions are...

To be healthier and to serve more people in more ways. That's it!

Although, there is a huge list of things I have to do, and want to do, that goes under each of those goals. My goals are very specific, and so I have a lot of work to do.

One thing I know for sure is, I may have a set back or I may mess up a little but you know what? That is totally okay in my head. That sounds funny. Anyway, what I mean is, I will not give up if I have a set back or if I mess up a little, or a lot.

My mantras for my goals are, "I can do this! I have faith that I can do these things. I will not give up."

I am so focused, it is magnificent, in my head. ;0)

Do you have your goals? How are you doing? Do you have faith that you can accomplish your goals? Do you have the mindset that you WILL NOT give up?

In Hebrews 11:1, it says, "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

Now is the time, more than ever, to have faith in yourself, and your goals. Now is the time, more than ever, to hope for the things that you want that have not yet come to pass. Now is the time, more than ever, especially if you want a better you and a better year, to be focused more than ever.

You can do it my friend.

You can do this!

Have faith!

Never give up!

Say it with me now, "I can do this! I have faith I can do these things! I will not give up!"

Have a great week. Have fun and be playful too ;0)

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR DIFFICULT TIMES

2011-12-31T06:43:00.001-08:00

BREAKING POINT

Hey there. How are you? Am having a great week, how bout you? Hope so ;0)

Have you ever felt like you were at a breaking point? If you have, you know what it is, and you will know exactly what I am talking about.

A breaking point is an emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual place where you feel like you are going to break. It is a place that you are so overwhelmed that you feel like you cannot take it anymore. I have seen this place, I have seen it in my own life, and in many other lives. Do you know what I am talking about?

When we are at a breaking point, this place, will 'make us' or 'break us'. This is a place that I have been with hundreds of individuals. They say that they can't take anymore, and they feel like they are going to break.

The breaking point is usually when you are overwhelmed and everything is in your face. You think like, oh shizzz, what am I going to do? You feel like, AAAHHH! I can't take it anymore. And then you have to make a decision on what to do.

Usually, when we are at this point we are thinking of all the things that are wrong, and then we think about the worst possible outcome that can happen for us. This is major fear, and this is major worry that can cause anxiety.

This can be a very critical point in our life. This can be a moment, or 6 months, of crisis.

Through the years, I have worked with many individuals who were at this point. A couple of the people I have worked with are teenagers, who are in a situation at home that is causing severe anxiety, and/or depression. Some others, I have worked with, are having severe financial difficulties, who have lost everything, and I mean everything tangible. Additionally, I have worked with people who are emotionally spent due to loneliness, despair, or frustration.

So, if you are at a breaking point, what can you do?

I am so very excited that you asked ;0)

When you are at a breaking point, the first thing you have to do is ask yourself what the heck it is? What is going on for you right now? I guarantee it is fear of what might happen and the thought that you will not know how to, or if you can, handle it. What are you afraid of? Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?"

At this point, the best thing to do is pour your heart out to God. Talk to Him, and tell him what you are afraid of, and what your biggest fears are. Why do you want to do this? You want to do this because you are Heavenly Father's child, and He loves you. You are so very special to Him, and you will feel comfort from this because He wants you to turn to Him so that He can give you comfort.

After you do this, you will feel comfort.

With all my heart, I believe that when we have troubles, I mean really big troubles, it is an opportunity to get closer to God. Part of the reason He gives us trials is so we can learn to lean on Him more frequently.

In Romans 12:12 it says, " Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;"

Rejoicing in hope means to be happy for your ambitions, aspirations, and dreams. Patient in tribulation means willing to endure the thing, or things, that is causing your pain and unhappiness. Continuing instant in prayer means to persist and carry on immediately and urgently in your conversations with God.

Basically, focus on your dreams, be willing to endure the trial that you have been given, and persist, right now, in your conversations with God.

When we are at a breaking point, I truly believe we do the opposite. We focus on what we don't want, we are impatient, and we want to quit and give up.

My friend, dream big, focus on what you want, be willing to endure your trials, and be constantly in the conversation with God.

You can do this. You got the power. You are so very special and you must remind yourself of this in the moment of a breaking point, and the entire time you have the struggle that you are going through.

Get your journal, write down all the things you dream of in your life, and write down all of the evidence, your successes and accomplishments, that remind you that you can have them.

And know this... You can handle anything you are going through, you can handle anything that comes your way, and you will manage this because you always have overcome your trials in the past.

You are so very capable, you are so very smart, you are so very strong, and you are so very divine. The thing is, if you are at a breaking point, you may have just forgot all of your divinity. You are a child of God, and that makes you divine.

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires, believe in this, and believe in yourself. Have faith my friend! God has faith in you! I have faith in you as well!

If you need help, take the destress yourself class and it will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want, and show you how you can get it.

That's all I got.

Have fun this weekend. Be playful!

Big Hugs... AND MERRY CHRISTMAS BABY!!!

Elizabeth

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2011-12-30T19:12:00.001-08:00

MY JOURNEY

Hey there. How the heck are you? I am very well, thank you very much.

I wanted to show you my journal. That is a picture of it right there ->

Pretty cool aye?

I just wanted you to know how serious I am about setting and obtaining goals. It's not just about goals though, it is about being happy, and making things better and better, no matter what you are going through.

Last Tuesday, I wrote about Never Ending Goal Setting, because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that the only way to diligently progress and produce in this life is by constantly setting and obtaining goals, and by an enduring determination to evaluate our development so that we can continue to improve.

People are always complaining and speaking about how hard life is when in actuality, it really isn't that bad or hard. I hear woman talk about how horrible a commercial is or how devastating someone's behavior is but it is all an illusion. You know what is devastating? Loosing your legs, and not being able to walk, or loosing a lung so that you are unable to function actively, not a commercial or someone's behavior.

What I think about these individuals who complain and cry woe is me, all the time, is that they are not learning or moving forward. When you learn and move forward, you discover that life is not really hard (well sometimes it is ;)), and there isn't anything that you can't handle because you have become stronger and stronger from your challenges.

Trust me on this one ;)

One of the biggest things that has helped me move forward and discover that I can handle anything is my writing. My writing began in my journals, then I did a lot in college, and now I blog. My writing is not the best but, you should have read it before I went to college. I was raised by a Mother who's second language is English, and it really shows in my journals. It really shows on my blog, as well, but it is a lot better than it was.

Tangent! LOL

What I am trying to say is, I have come a long way because of my writing, especially in my journals. I have set and obtained some serious goals, and I have overcome some serious challenges. What is so cool is, I can look back at where I was in life, my anxiety, my depression, my alcoholism, or my PTSD, I know how far I have come, and know that I can handle anything. It is because of this constant goal setting and evaluating of myself that has gotten me where I am now.

No! I am not a millionaire, yet! But I am stronger spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The only reason I say that is because most people attribute moneys to success when I look at the ability to be happy and still move forward in life, under any circumstance, as being successful. In order to be happy and still move forward, under any circumstance, one must be strong spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The way you get there is learning more from your challenges, having faith in yourself, and having a very strong spiritual relationship with God.

There have been many times in my life when I have been angry, anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed. Those were my challenges, and I have learned from them primarily through the documentation of my thoughts, feelings, actions, attitudes, and goals.

When I was a young single Mother, I use to have severe anxiety over money. As I look back, and read my journal entries, I can remember the thoughts and feelings, and I can know, without a doubt, that if I made it through that, I can make it through anything. This, my friend, is an unbelievable gift that I have taught to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.

In my last post, I wrote that I too would get my journal and start my never ending goal setting process, and I have. I wrote my goals for 2012, right after I wrote that post.

So, get your journal, take responsibility for your life, get ready to destress yourself for 2012, get back to the basics, start to overcome some amazing challenges, and do it with faith, RIGHT NOW!

Let's do this together. If you journal, I promise you, you will see some amazing things happen in your life and it won't be just setting and obtaining goals, it is much bigger than that.

You can do this!

You got the power!

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires in 2012!

Don't you wanna? I know you do!

Good luck my friend. Speak soon...

Don't forget! Have fun! Be playful!

If you need help through this process of never ending goal setting, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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GOT GOALS?

2011-12-30T06:57:00.001-08:00

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING

Hello!

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING!

Did you know that if you don't have goals you are in the constant state of going nowhere?

Did you know that if you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you can cause yourself some stress?

As spiritual, and human, beings, we must move forward to feel good about ourselves. If we do not feel good about ourselves, our self-confidence and self-esteem is very low. If we feel low, we have a void, and we tend to fill that void with very stressful habits like eating, smoking, drinking, inappropriate relationships, or drama.

Do you get up everyday, get ready for work or school, go to work/school, get home, watch TV, eat dinner, watch more TV, go to bed, and do it all over again? If you do, you are in the constant state of going nowhere.

Life is a learning experience and one of the things we can learn is never ending goal setting.

Whether we have small or large goals we will move forward in life. When we move forward in life we feel good about ourselves.

When we don't have any goals we stay in the constant state of going nowhere and we feel displeased with ourselves. When we feel unfulfilled we feel unhappy. Unhappiness can stress us out. We have a choice, we can stay in the constant state of going nowhere or we can choose never ending goal setting.

Some goals that you may consider are financial, relationship, health, or career. They can be big or small.

If you would like to make more money you can make that a goal.

If you would like to get along better with your spouse or family members you could make that a goal.

If you would like to feel better physically you could make that a goal.

If you are unhappy in your career you could make a goal out of looking for another job.

The best way to set a goal is to think about what you want. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?"

The answer may be to weigh less, or be happier, or to overcome anger, or make more money, or find an eternal companion, or to increase self-awareness, or to serve, or to find passion or purpose. These are simple wants and yet still goals.

Once you have an idea of what you want you can take steps to obtaining your goal(s).

First, think about the best for yourself. Dream and imagine what a perfect life would look like.

Second, write your goals down.

Third, prioritize your goals.

Fourth, write down all the things 'to do' to obtain the goal(s).

Fifth, start 'to do!'

Sixth, believe you will obtain them.

Seventh, and final, never give up!

You can do this!

Staying stagnant in our lives can cause stress because our lives may lack excitement or pleasure. Take time to explore what you really want out of life and move on it. If you move forward only one step at a time you will be that much closer to your goal, by that one step.

Setting goals and obtaining them creates excitement and enthusiasm for life. If we are excited and enthusiastic about life we feel successful and that is what destressing yourself is all about, moving from stress to success.

So, get your journal my friend, and start the never ending goal setting process. I'm gonna! Right now! You can too!

You got the power! You can do this!

If you need help through this process, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH PRAYER

2011-12-29T18:54:00.001-08:00

PRAYER ;)

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. ~Isaiah 41:10

Hello my friend. How was your week? Mine was magnifico, as usual ;)

I have a friend who says that I am in denial about my stress. Isn't that cute? He thinks that because there are certain aspects in my life that are not perfect, that I pretend to be happy. I do not pretend to be happy. I am happy about 95% of the time and maybe, sometimes, 99% of the time, and I will tell you why.

No matter what is going on in my life, I am happy because I know without a doubt that my Heavenly Father loves me, that I am very precious to Him, and that He is watching out for me every minute, of every hour, and every hour of every day.

The first thing I do every morning is I pray unto Him. The last thing I do, every night, is I pray unto Him. When I feel sad, He is the first person I have a conversation with. When I am sad, when I feel anxious, and when ever I feel like I don't want to feel, I pour my heart out to Him.

Every time I pour my heart out to Heavenly Father, I feel comfort almost immediately.

If you are having a hard time I would like to persuade you to pour your heart out unto Him. You are a child of God, and He loves you, you are so very special to Him. You are a gift from the Divine.

As I was trying to decide what to blog about for our New Year Resolutions, I thought that I should discuss the most important things that pertain to permanent stress relief, in other words, how to destress yourself.

To me, one of the most important things that we can do is cry unto Heavenly Father when we are stressed, not only will you build a very close relationship with Him, you will find and develop this way of destressing immediately.

Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. ~ Jeremiah 29:12

What I am trying to do is persuade you to journal and evaluate your frequency of prayer and your relationship with God. Contemplate this because if you would like to improve upon it, you can make it a New Year Resolution.

If you do, you will certainly destress yourself.

Have a wonderful weekend. Have fun and don't forget to be playful, I really mean that.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR LIFE, RIGHT NOW

2011-12-29T06:49:00.001-08:00

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY!

Good Mornin...

My friend's daughter asked me if I love Christmas or if I didn't love Christmas. Cute huh? I told her that I love Christmas. She said, me too. Then she asked me what I loved about Christmas, and I said everything except the gifts. HA HA HA!

I really do love everything except the gifts. If it were up to me I would just hang out with family and friends, and no gifts. Could you imagine if Christmas was about Christ? Just kidding, I know it is. But what if we didn't give gifts and we just enjoyed good food and good company? How destressed we would be!

Any who, recently I talked about getting ready for 2012 and New Year Resolutions.

Did you read about it? Did you get your journal? Did you start your journey with your journal by reading and writing about back to the basics post? If you did, YOU ARE AWESOME!

If you did, YOU ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FUTURE. So cool!

But, if you didn't, then I would like to persuade you to take responsibility for your future.

Recently, I have been helping more teens than I ever have. A couple of years ago, I started to work with college age students, lots of 18 and 19 year olds. Last month, I worked with more teenagers (under 18), than I have in my whole career of teaching permanent stress relief.

They have spoken of molestation, abuse, parental divorce, illness, and misery at home. The number one issue I have dealt with is beliefs of ugliness and why am I not good enough. The latter is not so typical as the former never the less, it is all very stressful, wouldn't you agree?

When I talk to the youth about lack of self-confidence due to feeling ugly, or feeling not good enough I tell them stuff like, you are the boss of you, you are the only thinker of your thoughts, and so you gotta be the boss of your thoughts and you gotta think better thoughts. I tell them to stop thinking that they are not good enough and I teach them affirmations, and how to use them. An affirmation like, I am good enough!

We search for evidence that they are good enough, and we search for evidence that their beliefs are unreasonable. For example, I tell them to notice everyone around them for a day, or even a week, and notice how unique everyone is. Some people are fatter, some people are skinnier, some people are uglier, and some people are prettier.

This is amazing because the majority of them get it. The majority of them get that they can take responsibility for their thoughts, and that God has made everyone as unique as their thumb print therefore, we can appreciate our uniqueness and focus on our assets and strengths.

Isn't that amazing?

What does this all have to do with destressing yourself?

Destressing yourself is all about awareness, and awareness has a lot to do with knowing that you can take responsibility for your thoughts, knowing that you can take responsibility for your life, knowing that you can take responsibility for your future.

It amazed me how many teens got this. It even seemed, to me, that teens were getting more than adults do.

What I am trying to say is, you can learn to destress yourself by taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, as a result you will take responsibility for your life and for your future.

So, get that journal, and start your journey to destress yourself in 2012.

That's all I got!

Speak soon...

Have fun this week...

Be playful!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF 2012

2011-12-28T19:00:00.001-08:00

YOU WANNA GET READY TO DESTRESS FOR 2012???

Hello my friend! How's your week? I really wanna know how your week is going! Is it going well? Is it not going so well? Let a gril know how your doing ;)

Are you ready for and do you wanna alleviate your stress in 2012?

Do you have stress at work?

Do you have stress at home?

Do you have anger, anxiety, depression, or loneliness?

Whatever it is, let's prep for destressing ourselves for 2012. Are you with me? Let's do it!

LOL! I sound like a dang cheerleader.

Okay, so we know that the New Year is almost here and every year I encourage everyone to destress by setting goals. That's right, New Year Resolutions.

If you say that you don't make New Year Resolutions, let me try to change your mind. PLEASE!!!

New Year Resolutions are the greatest way to turn your life around because you are setting goals and you can start a new. You can start fresh!

Most people do not live by goals, which is a crime, in my mind. If you are not setting and obtaining goals, you are in the constant state of going nowhere, and that, my friend, is stressful.

We are spiritual and human beings who need to progress to feel good about ourselves. When we set and obtain goals we lift our self-confidence and self-esteem. When we have great confidence, we don't carry doubt, fear, or worry.

Trust me! I know that this is so. I know that this is so because most people who are stressed have horrible habits of thinking thoughts full of doubt, fear, and worry and the best way to get away from this way of thinking is to set a goal.

You wanna do it? You wanna prep yourself to destress in 2012? If you are with me...

This is your first assignment for prepping yourself to destress in 2012...

Get a journal. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, it could be a blank pad of paper. The reason you need a journal is because I am going to give you exercises to explore your way of living that may be causing you stress so that you, and I (because we are going to do this together), can make some serious goals slash New Year Resolutions to destress in 2012.

Just a side note. If you do not journal, you are doing yourself and your future relatives a disservice. I have been journaling since I was in elementary school. There are so many benefits to journaling. The number one benefit, in my eyes, is you can see how far you have come over the years and how much you have grown as an individual. Another benefit is, when you go through hard times, if you journal, when you look back at those times, you can see how strong you were and how well you handled yourself. This is so important because when we succeed through hard times it strengthens us to know that we truly can handle anything.

Okay, enough of that.

Start your journey, with your journal, by reading and evaluating the basics I wrote about in my last post.

So get a journal, read and evaluate the basics from my last post, and write about what you have discovered in your new journal. That's it!

Speak soon...

Have fun and be playful, in the mean time.

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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If you really need to destress yourself, take the class

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2011-08-06T08:32:00.000-07:00

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

2011-02-12T07:00:00.000-08:00

So how do you Destress Yourself?

When we evolve our mind to a place where we have faith in ourselves and in God we start to believe that our hopes and dreams can come true.

Once we start to believe that these hopes and dreams can come true we start moving towards them in our activities.

With faith and action we can see these things come to pass and they are a miracle because we didn't believe it could happen and it did.

So how does this Destress Yourself?

Well, when we are stressed it is because we have doubt, fear, and worry.

When we create our own miracles we have certainty, confidence, and hope.

When we create our own miracles we move forward in life and achieve the things we were worried we would never obtain.

The miracle is a dream or goal you would like to have come true and at this point in time you do not believe it could come true. Designing your life so that it will come true would be your miracle.

So, how do you create your dream life?

Get a pen and paper.

Ready?

Let us begin the process of Destressing Yourself.

If I were a Magical Warrior Queen (I love the sound of that, sorry I tend to fantasize), I waved my magical wand over your head, you woke up the next morning, and your life was perfect, what would it look like?

Let me help.

Where would you live?

Who would you live with?

What would you do for a living?

What would you do all day, every day?

What would you look like?

What kind of habits would you have?

What kind of habits would you eliminate?

Write the answers down!

Let us destress.

Don't just write general things like you would buy a house, be specific and write what the house looks like and where it is.

For each question above be specific.

Dream a little, even if you don't put it on paper!

Have fun with this!!!

If you would really like to destress yourself, try my audio, it will take you through a step by step process in evolving your mind so that you have faith in yourself and as a result, destress yourself.

Elizabeth

DESTRESS YOUR ATTITUDE

2011-02-05T07:00:00.000-08:00

Destress Yourself with a positive attitude.

A positive attitude increases our happiness, energy, and vitality. Attitude is everything! When we have a positive attitude we see things that are good in our lives, we feel grateful for what we have, and we are in a good mood."

How do you destress yourself with a positive attitude? Or better yet, how does a positive attitude increase our happiness, energy, and vitality? When we think positive, we think of the good things in our life, and that makes us feel good. When we feel good, we are happy, we have energy, and we have vitality.

Yes, our attitude can increase or decrease our happiness, energy, and vitality.

But you already knew that!

We have control over our attitude because we have control over our thoughts. Although, this is not something they teach us as we grow up. When I say, "they" I mean our parents and our teachers. Teachers meaning, school teachers, our friends, and our mentors.

I would jump for joy if we implemented, in our school system, how we can have control over our thoughts. We are the only thinkers of our thoughts, and learning to think what we want to is a habit that can be formed.

Just as the habit of our minds being on autopilot has been learned over 20, 30, 40, or more years (depending how old you are).

For many, many years, I have been teaching permanent stress relief and I meet a lot of people that believe they have a positive attitude. After working with many of these individuals, they discover that they may not be as positive as they think.

Finding out how positive we are, or are not, is very important to managing our stress. People with a positive attitude have less stress and people with a negative attitude have higher levels of stress.

How do you know if you have a positive attitude?

Let me ask you some questions to help you determine if you do.

1. Do you wake up grateful for your life and another day or do you wake up dreading the day and what you have to do?

2. Are you grateful for what you have, all day or do you complain and discuss what could be better in your life?

3. Do you express daily to the people you love, how grateful you are for them or do you forget?

4. Do you believe you can accomplish your goals or do you have doubt in having a better life than you have now?

5. Do you think of what you want and focus forward or do you do the same ole thing over and over again everyday?

6. Do you enjoy your work or do you have discontent for your job/career?

7. Do you enjoy the people you are with or do you get irritated by something or someone else?

8. Do you enjoy the places that you are at or do you have your mind on something or someone else?

9. Do you have faith in yourself that you can make more money or do you fear that life will always be "this way"?

10. Do you think of the things that are great in your life or do you wish that things could be better?

11. Do you look for opportunities in your obstacles or do you label things as "this is bad"?

12. Do you believe that life is working for you and your good or do you believe you have bad luck?

13. Do you have fun and are you playful or are you serious all the time?

The first part of the question indicates a positive attitude and the second part of the question indicates a negative attitude.

I am going to be brave and say, if you pick even one or two, of the second part of the question, chances are, you are not as positive as you think.

Ayayaye!

That was brave.

If you disagree, bring it! Bring it to the comments below and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

If you would like to learn how to destress yourself with a positive attitude, check out HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF.

Have a great weekend.

Elizabeth

SEVEN GREAT WAYS TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

2011-01-29T18:17:00.000-08:00

After studying years of stress management and developing my program destress yourself I have come to the conclusion that there are seven keys to destress yourself with basic stress management.

What is basic stress management? Well, it consists of the basic actions we can do to enhance our ability to manage our stress. These actions are clear-cut and critical. These fundamental keys should be a part of our daily lives and they play an important part in our level of energy. It takes energy to manage stress.

SEVEN GREAT WAYS TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

1. A positive attitude - A positive attitude increases our happiness, energy, and vitality. Attitude is everything! When we have a positive attitude we see things that are good in our lives, we feel grateful for what we have, and we are in a good mood.

2. Eat right - When we eat right we have energy. When we eat unhealthy foods our energy goes to digesting food and our body does not get the vitamins and nutrients it needs to sustain endurance. Eating right consists of eating foods that give us nourishment like fruits, vegetables, nuts, and lean meat proteins, sparingly. In other words, natural foods and non processed foods.

3. Exercise - When we exercise we create feel good neurotransmitters and we feel good about ourselves. Exercise also allows us to sleep deeper, and better, at night. Regular exercise also helps create more energy for the next day.

4. Get plenty of rest - This is essential for our energy and our mood. Plenty of sleep at night enhances our mood and blesses us with alertness. When we are alert our thought process works more efficiently and our memory is improved. Don't you notice when you don't get enough sleep you become moodier and more irritable? When we don't get enough rest we become physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted and that definitely increases our stress.

5. Eliminate unhealthy habits - Unhealthy habits like smoking, drinking alcohol, and self-medicating with over the counter and pharmaceutical medications, depletes our energy and increases our irritability. Many of these unhealthy habits create vitamin deficiencies and reduces our ability to get good rest. When we engage in unhealthy behaviors that elevate and depress our moods we become short tempered because we rely on outside sources to enhance our feelings of happiness. People with addictions are some of the most stressed out people I know. Believe me, I know a lot of stressed out people. :-)

6. Do things that you enjoy - This one is self explanatory. Do what you enjoy! Sometimes it has been such a long time since we have done something we enjoyed we forget what it is we enjoy. It does not take money to find and do something we enjoy. This key may require some research on our own part and if it does then, my guess is, stress levels are very, very high.

7. Spend time with people you enjoy being with - This is another self explanatory key. If you do not have anyone in your life that you enjoy being with, I do not have to guess that stress levels are very, very high, it is a given!

Now that we have the seven major keys to destress yourself, with basic stress management, what do we do? We evaluate each and every key on a number scale.

Let's use a number scale of 1 to 10. A number "1" would indicate that you do not do this particular activity at all and a number "10" would indicate that you are a pro at this particular activity. Go through each key and rate yourself from 1 to 10.

Then pick and prioritize each key you would like to work on to improve your basic stress management and to destress yourself. If you do not know which one you would like to work on, may I suggest you pick the keys with the lowest numbers first.

I love this stuff because it is very important!

Please don't just read this post, apply it.

Get your pen and paper out and do this exercise, prioritize the keys, and get to working on destressing yourself.

If you are having a hard time with stress try my DESTRESS YOURSELF audio so that you may begin your journey of increasing your happiness, energy, and vitality.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF IN A MINUTE

2011-01-22T07:00:00.000-08:00

HEYA!!!

How are you doing my friend??

I just want to share with you a way that you can Destress Yourself In A Minute.

First, find yourself sitting upright and relaxed.

Second, inhale slowly, filling your lungs to full capacity, like balloons.

Third, hold your inhalation for three seconds.

Fourth, exhale, imagining yourself releasing all of your tension as you breath out.

Do this three to six times. Not too much though as you may get a bit dizzy. Just make sure you are sitting, lol.

Finally, sit for a moment and see if you can feel your heart beat and as you feel your heart beat feel the knowing that you have the ability to be calm, in this moment, and that everything is fine.

When we do this exercise we relax and take our thoughts, which might be racing due to stress, out of our head and focus into our body.

This can be done at anytime and anywhere but, at first when you are just practicing, the most desirable place would be at home when alone.

Make this a regular practice and you will notice your ability to Destress Yourself immediately, anytime and anywhere.

This exercise is known as activating the relaxation response and it is a very beneficial tool to have in your repertoire.

Just for you...

Have a great day and don’t forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

DESTRESS YOURSELF!

2011-01-15T09:00:00.000-08:00

Today, like everyday, I am very grateful! I am especially grateful to help people relieve stress.

One thing I know for sure is no matter how devastating or how stressful our situation is, we can handle it! It may not seem like it at the time and if we could hold the thought of, "I can handle it," it may make things a little easier.

Many of us have been through the worst of financial, emotional, physical, mental, or even spiritual stress and we survived. Why do we survive? We survive because we have no choice. Well, we do, but I will save that for another post.

The stress comes in when we create the thoughts about our situation. If we have the belief, and attitude, that we will handle it and we can handle it, then the stress lessens.

Guard your thoughts and beliefs in stressful times. Remember that you can handle it and you will lighten your burden. It sounds simple, and it is, but it is not necessarily easy by any means. If you put it into practice, it will get easier.

I have heard so many people talk about all the stress and hard times that they have been through and yet they survive. Think of all you have been through, and notice that you can handle it because you have. You are still here, alive and kicking.

I believe, one of the greatest things about being stressed out, over a situation, is what we can learn. The supreme lesson is that the thoughts of fear and worry about the worst thing that can happen does increase our stress. Therefore, thoughts of faith and confidence that the best outcome will occur does decrease our stress. And, if we take action towards the best possible outcome, our faith and confidence will increase, even more, and our stress will then decrease further, as well.

The goal is to get better and better, at life, as we age, and that includes getting better at managing our stress.

If you would like help at getting better at managing your stress, check out my 'HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF AUDIO'.

Thank you for all of your emails.

I am so very grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful weekend!

And, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please, email me elizabethstanfill@gmail.com, if you have any questions or comments. Or comment below.

Elizabeth

MAKING CHANGES!!!

2010-06-21T10:52:00.000-07:00

Hello there my friend. I hope you are having a wonderful day!

I am making some changes with how I distribute destress yourself information.

From now on, I will no longer be posting my published Destress Yourself Newsletter on this blog. I will, however be posting it on my Destress Yourself Blog.

The reason I have decided to do this is because I do not blog as much as I use to and I would like to stick to one blog. Eventually, this blog will be eliminated or used for something else.

If you are subscribed to this blog for the Newsletter, please unsubscribe, when you get this post, and subscribe to my destress yourself blog, where I will be posting my newsletters from now on.

If you would like access to discounted and free audios, programs, and teleclasses I strongly suggest you subscribe to my destress yourself blog.

Just click on destress yourself blog, enter your email address in the box in the right column, and click on subscribe.

Have a great day!!! Don't forget to have fun and be playful!!!

Elizabeth

DESTRESS YOURSELF - SEVERE ILLNESS OR INJURY

2010-06-15T11:18:00.000-07:00

Hello there my friend!

I hope you are having a wonderful day.

Some weeks ago, my newsletter contained a list of the top 5 most stressful life events. Today, I would like to talk about number 2 on that list, which is Severe Illness or Injury.

When severe illness or injury hits, it can cause severe anger, anxiety, and depression. All of these emotions are very negative and cause huge amounts of stress. This type of stress is very overwhelming and can be difficult to deal with therefore, I would like to provide some suggestions that will give you direction for your stress.

The first, and one of the most important things that we can do when we have an illness or injury is create awareness. You can create awareness by having a good relationship with your doctor and communicating with him or her often on causes, signs, symptoms, treatments, and what you can do to remain as healthy as you can be. In addition to talking often to your Private Medical Doctor, you can become an expert on your condition, which will ultimately help you.

The second thing you can do is to develop habits that will decrease your signs and symptoms or help relieve your suffering and pain.

And finally, another very important thing you can do is adjust your attitude towards your situation. What I mean by this is, if you are angry about your situation, you only hurt you! If you are feeling sorry for yourself, you only hurt you! Forgive me if I sound unkind! It is very important that you are aware that your attitude affects your happiness and if you create an attitude of desire and faith; desire to have a great life in spite of your condition and faith that you can be an expert, knowing and doing what will help you versus hinder you, you will destress yourself.

Let me give you some examples. If you have an illness like diabetes and you become an expert, create habits in your diet and exercise to decrease your signs and symptoms, and create an attitude of desire and faith in yourself, living with your diabetes will be a lot easier.

If you have an injury, maybe your legs or knees, and it is difficult to walk for you but you become an expert on your injury, create habits in your lifestyle like strengthening your muscles and learning pain management, and create an attitude of desire and faith in yourself, living with your injury will be less stressful.

YOU HAVE THE POWER!

You have a choice, you can live with happiness, energy, and vitality or you can choose anger, anxiety, or depression, it is all up to you.

If you have an illness or injury NEVER GIVE UP!!! Please, take time to set these three goals, create awareness, develop the best habits, and adjust your attitude and I promise you that you will be an expert at destressing yourself.

If you would like step by step guidance to help you develop successful habits and goals by creating happiness, energy, and vitality and/or help to overcome anger, anxiety, or depression check out my program 'HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF'

I am so grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!
Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

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AN EMAIL RESPONSE TO THE LAST NEWSLETTER

2010-06-07T08:01:00.000-07:00

Hello there my friend!

I hope you are having a spectacular day so far.

Everyday, I receive emails from amazing people all over the world and I am so grateful for there questions and comments.

After every newsletter, I receive emails from my newsletter list and I am very touched and grateful for the comments and the sharing of personal lives.

In this weeks newsletter, I thought I would publish one of those emails written my Michelle Brooks, with her permission of course. Michelle is a dear friend of mine, and a blogger. You can find her blog at Simple Clues To The Mystical Side Of You. Pretty cool name huh?

Well, here it is, Michelle's response to last weeks newsletter (all of my newsletter are archived at elizabethstanfill.blogspot.com)

"Elizabeth,

I really wanted to comment on this and was hoping it was on your blog, but I didn't see it. Can your newsletter also be a blog post so people can comment? I think that would be a great idea.

I just wanted to tell you that I can completely relate to this. With all of the "stuff" going on in my personal life, people have said things like they don't know why I'm not a basket case or sick or anything. I have to say it's all because of this journey and path I have taken.

Now don't get me wrong, I do have my bad days, but it seems they don't last as long as they used to, and you're right it's just "stuff" which is life. However, now days it seems that I have gained sort of a peaceful knowing that everything is happening exactly as it should. It doesn't mean that I have to like it, but I do accept it. By accepting it, we don't build up a resistance to it and create more of what we don't want.

By your best friend saying that, he is revealing where he is in his life. He can continue to tell himself his story of how "stressed" you should be or how you should feel a certain way, but that's the story he's telling himself. You don't have to tell yourself that story. By telling ourselves a certain story, we also box our options.

For example, just recently I thought I had to make a decision about something and then I realized that I didn't have to make a decision. That the decision could possibly be resolved another way. For weeks and weeks I had been telling myself I had to make this decision, which wasn't true, that's what I thought I should do. Now, other doors have opened and potential options and I feel at peace with not making this particular decision right now. And it seems as soon as I took this new viewpoint that things have at least made an improvement.

Interestingly, during the weeks where I was worried and concerned over this issue, things seemed to increasingly get worse. Now that I have released it another way, the situation is showing improvement. What a lesson!

So basically what I am saying is that as far as society is concerned, it seems there are things people think we should be stressed about, but really what purpose does that serve? It just creates more stress in our life and "stuff" we don't want so what's the point of telling ourselves we should be stressed? What purpose would that serve? Just do what you can now, in the moment. Like you said, that's all we have!

Lots of love to you and if you need to talk, I'm here, just propose a time and I'm there for you!

Great Big Hugs!

Michelle"

I am so grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

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Destressing Life!

2010-06-01T07:34:00.000-07:00

Hello there my friend!

I hope you had a wonderful wonderful Memorial Day Weekend.

You know, I am currently going through some stuff, I am always going through stuff, and I think that everyone else is going through some stuff as well. What I mean by stuff is struggles. The reason I didn't use the word 'struggles' is because what we are going through is just 'life'. There is stuff, or struggles, in life. THAT'S LIFE!

The other day, my best friend told me that he thinks I pretend that everything is okay when it really is not. My reply was that I don't pretend because everything is okay. Sure, I worry about things and some pretty heavy stuff happens sometimes but I can still love life. I can still love the moment I am in and enjoy the person that I am with.

Whatever we are going through is part of life whether it is good times, to us, or bad times, and it is not happening all the time and in this moment really. It is only happening all the time and in this moment in our minds, and it protrudes into our moments that can be filled with joy.

No matter what is happening to you, a death of a loved one, severe injury or illness, relationship difficulties, financial hardship, or problems at work, you can still enjoy life by not allowing these things to invade your moments of joy.

The best thing that anyone of us can do is learn to relax and release our worry during moments that can and should be joyful, like right now. In this moment, right now, we can learn to relax, release our worry, and enjoy the person we are with and enjoy the moment we are in.

I believe in enjoying life, and I do, you can too by knowing that life WILL give us challenges and the goal is to get better and better at handling them.

If you need a solution on how to relax you can find one in the FREE audio on my home page here, and if you need a solution on how to release your worry you can find one here.

These audios, when listened to regularly, will help you create habits that will allow you to enjoy the moments you are in by being relaxed and destressing yourself.

I am so grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!
Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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Top Five Stressful Life Events

2010-04-26T08:31:00.000-07:00

Well, hello there my friend and Happy Monday.

What a great day it is today!

I was reading an article the other day and it listed the top ten stressful life events and I found that the stressful life events that my clients and followers are experiencing are quite different from the list published. Therefore, I thought I would reveal a list of the top five stressful life experiences that I hear about.

The Top Five Stressful Life Events

1. Pending or sudden death of an immediate loved one

2. Severe injury or illness

3. Significant other difficulties (divorce, marriage problems, or separation)

4. Financial struggles

5. Problems with business or at work

These are, by far, the most stressful situations that anyone can deal with. Although, I have not experienced the first, I have experienced 2 through 5, on the list, and continuously help people with all five.

The first one on the list, pending or sudden death of an immediate loved one, has got to be the most difficult. For those of us who have not experienced this, we must feel very grateful!

Recently, two of my best-friends have gone through the death of a very close loved one. One has experienced a sudden death of her Son, and the other has experienced the sudden pending and death of her Mother. This kind of grief causes severe anxiety and depression.

There is no words or actions that can relieve this sort of pain and sorrow. The only thing that can heal is love and support from others, and time and spirituality. Both of my friends have had love, support, some time to heal, and have become very close to Heavenly Father, which has truly helped the process.

It is my tendency to provide direction and solutions for stress but, in this case, because everyone is different, it is the individual who must search for what will assist them in their time of grief.

One thing I would love to share is, both of my friends have started to attend church diligently, read their scriptures daily, and have been on their knees praying regularly. This search for enhanced spirituality has truly assisted the grieving process.

The number one thing that is missing, and most helpful, for the majority of the people I talk to is spirituality. When spirituality, your relationship with God, is enhanced and edified, stress is decreased. I share this because I know it to be true from my experiences that I have with my clients and the hundreds of people that email me about their stress every month.

If you are having a hard time with grief, I want to help! Email me and we can find ways, together, on how you can obtain support with your grief.

If you are having a hard time with any of the situations mentioned above, I want to help! In the coming weeks, I will discuss prevention, intervention, and direction to destress yourself for severe injury or illness, significant other difficulties, financial struggles, and problems at work.

I can't wait to get the emails on this one!!!

I am so very grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

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Shifting To Destress Yourself

2010-04-13T06:56:00.000-07:00

Well, hello there my friend and Happy Monday!

What a great day it is today! I am so happy and grateful! I am so lucky!

This past week, my son rented me a movie called, 'The Shift', starring Dr. Wayne Dyer. I fell in love with it! I watched it two times on Easter, he he he. Can you believe that? I never watch TV and I rarely watch movies.

Because I fell in love with this movie, I just had to have it. I called two Wal Marts, in town, and went to Target, and no one had it. I checked online and all the 'new' copies were $23.95.

On Wednesday, my Mom and I went to Costco, and there was a book called 'The Shift,' with Dr. Wayne Dyer on the cover. There was only one book left.

I picked it up and said. "I don't want the book." So, I put the book down and walked away. My Mom and I were in Costco for about an hour and a half to two hours, because that is how we role. We like to dilly dally and look at everything because they got some cool merchandise.

When we went to the check out, I was walking by the book section, and 'the book' was there, on top of all the other books, so I picked it up again. As I was looking at it, I read, "Free DVD The Shift, Included." Can you believe that? Did I mention that this was the only copy they had?

The best part was, it was only $13.99. So, I bought it, of course.

Why the heck am I telling you all of this? I am telling you this for several reasons; first, you have to see the movie, 'The Shift,' second, in the movie, it talks about paying attention, third, in the movie, it talks about the Universe working for you, and finally, the shift is from ambition (a what's in it for me attitude) to meaning (a how can I serve attitude).

This movie will make you ponder and reflect on your life. If and when we pay attention, we hear that still small voice that is guiding us, and this helps destress yourself because you are listening for that voice and not to the stressful voice that is speaking repeats in your mind. If and when we pay attention, instead of allowing our mind to race with stress, we can discover what is in front of us, the way the book was there for me.

When we start to believe that the Universe is working for us, we begin to believe in blessings rather than 'bad luck', which is a destress yourself attitude change. No matter what we focus on, it is true for us. If we focus on our blessings, we are happy and experience joy. If we focus on all the things that are wrong in our lives (the bad luck), we experience anxiety and depression. You see? It is our habit of what we focus on that creates happiness or unhappiness in our life.

Whether you watch the movie, or not, make it a habit to consciously pay attention to that still small voice, believe that life is working for you, and make the shift from ambition (what's in it for me) to meaning (how can I serve).

In my newsletter, The Cure To Destress Yourself, I challenged you to create happiness, energy, and vitality through serving others. I pray, with all my heart, that you have accepted this challenge so that you can experience the journey of destressing yourself.

I am so grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

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The Cure To Destress Yourself

2010-03-29T12:23:00.000-07:00

Well, hello there my friend and Happy Monday! It is Monday, isn't it? He he he, just kidding.

What a great day it is today! I am so happy and grateful! Are you happy and grateful?

Happiness to me is enjoying life, the moment I am in, and doing what I love. I love to help people! I help thousands and thousands of people every year and it makes me happy and grateful.

What is happiness to you? Is it enjoying life? Are you enjoying life? That is what destressing yourself is all about, ENJOYING LIFE!

The Cure to Destressing Yourself is ENJOYING LIFE, FEELING GOOD, AND HAVING VITALITY!

A great way to enjoy life, feel good, and create vitality is to serve others. Quite a few of you serve others everyday and even do it for a living, and that is AWESOME!

Most of you email me with success stories on how you change stressful habits and the habit usually has to do with 'you'. That is a great thing, and what I am proposing is that you create a successful habit of serving others so that you can increase your talent to destress yourself.

This is the challenge my friend, help just one person, today, see how good it feels and how you forget your stress.

If you are brave and have the courage, which I know you do, do it once a day, for a week, or a month, or make it a habit to do it everyday, and just watch yourself create HAPPINESS, ENERGY, AND VITALITY in your life. And that my friend, is the Cure to Destress Youself!

I am so grateful for you!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you!

Elizabeth Stanfill
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STRESS!!!

2010-03-16T04:47:00.000-07:00

Well hello there my friend!

So, the other day I was reading about stress management on the web, and this one site, which will remain nameless, was talking about all these different kinds of stress. The writer was discussing information like financial stress, relational stress, job stress, and several other types of stress.

So, I wrote the creator, of the website, a little note stating that he or she is totally misinforming people as to what stress is. No matter what you are going through, your situation is not your stress. What you are going through, your circumstances, is your stressor.

These stressors are individual for YOU! Let's say you have financial difficulties and you are experiencing doubt, fear, and worry over your finances. This is not financial stress, the financial situation is YOUR stressor. The reason I say YOUR stressor, is because we all react differently to situations. It is OUR reaction of doubt, fear, and worry that creates our stress.

A stressor is a situation, an event, a person, a place, or a thing that we react to and therefore, triggers the stress response. The stress response is our emotional, mental, and physical reaction that is activated when we experience OUR stressor. The stress response includes an increase in heart rate, respiration rate, blood pressure, blood circulation, and a shift in blood flows and many other bodily functions.

This particular website is supporting the illusion that our circumstance is our stress, when actually it is our mental reaction to our circumstances that is causing the stress.

We must manage our mental reactions (the way we think about things) to our stressors if we really want to manage our stress. You must discover how to destress yourself if you want permanent stress relief.

If you would like to discover more about stress management, please join me, this week, tonight and tomorrow night, for our FREE TELECLASSES, Basic Stress Management, and Advanced Stress Management. You will identify all you need to know about stress, stressors, reactions, and what you can do to create happiness, energy, and vitality in your life.

Basic Stress Management Class tonight, Tuesday, March 16, 2010, at 7 p.m. Pacific/10 p.m. Eastern

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

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Advanced Stress Management Class is tomorrow night, Wenesday, March 17, 2010, at 7 p.m. Pacific/10 p.m. Eastern

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access code 205356#

All of our FREE TELECLASSES are always the same number and access code! :-)

Meet you there!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!
Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

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Part Of A Good Plan To Destress Yourself

2010-03-08T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Monday!

I hope you had a wonderful weekend! We got a lot of snow and that makes me very very happy. This will probably be our last snow but that is okay because it will be time to break out my motorcycle. I love motorcycle season! ~giggle~

Last week I talked about plannin' ways to destress yourself and I think this plannin' is very important because plannin' equals prevention for stress. Prevention is always better than intervention because if you need intervention it means you are in the middle of stress and prevention keeps you from getting there.

Part of a good plan of destressing yourself is intentionally enjoying the moment you are in. This is a very successful habit that some people are blessed with but if you are not, you should try to make it a part of your life.

The opposite of being able to enjoy the moment we are in is the very stressful habit of being worried and thinking about all the things we have to do or an event that bothered us from yesterday.

If you can intentionally take the time to enjoy the moment you are in you will discover a great way to destress yourself.

For example, when you are eating some chocolate or a delicious meal, notice every bite, focus on the moment, and enjoy.

Or, when you are having a conversation with someone you really love, or like, notice the time you are spending together, and enjoy.

One of my favorite things to do, while in my office, is I put my feet up on my desk, I lean back in my leather chair, I quiet my mind, and I enjoy the moment I am in.

Sounds simple but it is great!

Give it a try, put it into practice, make it a habit, and you will be able to destress yourself at any time and any where.

Okay, I have some great news and I have some bad news. I will start with the bad news first. I had to cancel my Teleclass for tomorrow night, Tuesday, March 9, 2010. Please forgive me but I have a very important birthday dinner to go to.

THE GREAT NEWS IS... My friend, Michele Rosenthal, the creator of Heal My PTSD, is hosting a FREE Telecall and you are all invited. If you experience things like nightmares, insomnia, flashbacks, rage, emotional numbing, hyper-vigilance, hyper-arousal, depression, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and/or avoidance, you may have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and that is what Michele specializes in.

Here is the information link

and here is the information

'Creating A Healing Intention'

Tuesday, March 9, 2010
6 p.m. Pacific/9 p.m. Eastern
Dial in: (712) 432-1699
Pin: 828726#
Duration: 45 minutes
Number of participants is limited so dial in a little early. Normal long distance charges apply.

She is great! You will love her!

Part 2 of the great news is I rescheduled the Teleclass for next Tuesday, March 16, 2010, at 7 p.m. Pacific/10 p.m. Eastern. So, next week, we have two Teleclasses, Woot, Woot!!!

Have a wonderful week!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!
Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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661-877-7800
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What Is Your Plan To Destress Yourself?

2010-03-01T08:06:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Monday!

I hope you had a wonderful weekend! We got a little bit of snow, and that makes me very happy. When we get a lot of snow that makes me very very happy.

My question for you today is, what is your plan to Destress Yourself?

We all need a plan to Destress and what I mean by Destress is to change your stressful habits into successful habits.

Some of the activities in my plan to Destress Myself, on a daily basis, are meditation, intentional affirmations, and intentional visualizations. I also study the scriptures, eat right (well I try anyway), exercise, and I intentionally enjoy life, in other words I have fun and am playful. These activities are implemented into my everyday life. This plan is my lifestyle.

So, what is your plan? Do you have a plan? Whether you have a plan or not, it is a good thing to reevaluate that plan, or create one, so that you may create constant happiness, energy, and vitality.

So, get to plannin'. ;-)

Here are some suggestions on what to evaluate as part of your plan.

You may want to look at habits like eating right, exercising, getting plenty of rest, learning to relax, managing your anger, overcoming irritability, quieting your mind with meditation, evolving your mind with intentional affirmations and visualizations, creating faith in others, life, and yourself. These particular habits help create energy and it takes energy to Destress Yourself.

You may want to learn to be accepting of other people's behaviors and differences, or you may want to set and obtain goals to move forward in life. You may have challenges you want to overcome like anxiety or depression. Maybe you would like to create the habit of looking for opportunities in your obstacles, and/or learn to have fun and be playful. These particular habits help
create happiness.

When you have energy and happiness, you create vitality, which equals permanent stress relief.

So, get to plannin', write it down, make this plan a part of your daily life, create a lifestyle, and let me help you...

Stick with me my friend and we will Destress Yourself!

Please visit our calendar for our Free Tele Class Schedule this month. I just put up three new classes for March. The classes will be in the evening this month. Come and join me and we will have great fun on the journey of Destressing Yourself.

Also, you can find our latest classes in our store on Meditation, Affirmations, and Visualizations. These three classes will help you set and obtain your goals, and discover and change your stressful habits with comfort and ease.
Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

THE NUMBER ONE WAY TO DESTRESS YOURSELF!!!

2010-02-15T09:25:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Monday!

We had a great meditation class on Saturday. It was a lot of fun and if you missed it, the audio will be up in our destress yourself dot com store .

The number on way to destress yourself is...YOU HAVE TO WANT IT!

Like any habit you want to create or eliminate, YOU HAVE TO WANT IT!

You have to want a better life than you have now! You have to want better health than you have now! You have to want a better way of thinking than you have now! You have to want a better way of feeling than you have now! You have to want to behave better than you do now! You have to want a better attitude than you have now! You have to want to be happier than you are now!

DO YOU WANT IT???

That is it! You have to want it! You have to want to Destress Yourself.

If you really WANT TO DESTRESS YOURSELF then start TODAY!

Here are previous posts to help you get started.

IT IS TIME!

BEST WAYS TO DESTRESS YOURSELF.

HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF.

Or purchase our DESTRESS YOURSELF CLASS.

For more help, listen in on our FREE Tele Classes this month. You can find the schedule on our calendar page at destress yourself dot com.

Our next class is the second class, of three, that will teach you habits that will help you quiet and focus your mind, change your stressful habits, and accomplish the life you REALLY want.

BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT IT!!!

There are only 150 lines available and so it is a first come, first serve basis. However, the audio will be available in our store soon after.

Free Creating & Applying Affirmations Tele Class 7:00 a.m. (10:00 a.m. Eastern), Wednesday, February 17, 2010.

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access Code 205256#

MEET YOU THERE!

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

Destress Yourself; Meditation Tele Class Reminder

2010-02-12T17:07:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Happy Friday!

If you would like to learn about meditation and how to meditate, check out our FREE Tele Class on Meditation, this Saturday.

This is the first class, of three, that will teach you habits that will help you quiet and focus your mind, change your stressful habits, and accomplish the life you REALLY want.

There are only 150 lines available and so it is a first come, first serve basis. However, the audio will be available in our store soon after.

Free Meditation Tele Class 9:30 a.m. (12:30 Eastern), Saturday, February 13, 2010.

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access Code 205256#

MEET YOU THERE!

Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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destressyourself.blogspot.com
661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

The Best Ways To Destress Yourself

2010-02-08T10:18:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Happy Monday!

I hope you had a wonderful weekend. My weekend was outstanding! My baybee turns 24 tomorrow, and we went out to dinner on Saturday night and last night we had guests over for tacos and red velvet birthday cake, to celebrate his birthday early. I have been giving him presents for over a week now, LOL! I just get him something, and give it to him, and I say, "This is an early birthday present; present number 6." That's where I am, on present number 6. It is lots of fun and I love it because I really, really appreciate him in my life.

With gratitude for you, I want to give you a six things, you can do, that are the best ways to Destress Yourself. In order to Destress Yourself, which is shifting and progressing towards permanent stress relief, and evolving your stress response to the relaxation response, you must implement all of these ideas into your daily living.

Your list of the best ways to Destress Yourself.

1. Take responsibility for your life, right here and right now. Decide what you want and move towards the life you dream of.

2. Make a commitment to your change! Make a commitment to do what it takes to live the life you dream of.

3. Have an open mind! Have an open mind to learn and start new ways of changing your life, starting with your mind. Your thoughts establish your feelings, your feelings determine your actions, and your thoughts, feelings, and actions create your attitude. Your attitude is everything when it comes to your life. If you create a positive attitude, you produce happiness, energy, and vitality. If you create a negative attitude, you establish depression, fatigue, and slothfulness.

4. Learn all about your stress response patterns. When you learn how and when you initiate the stress response, you learn your stress response patterns. This information will allow you to increase your awareness to your stress.

5. Learn to relax. When you learn to relax, you learn to generate the relaxation response. When you learn the relaxation response, you develop a relaxation response pattern, rather than a stress response pattern.

6. Learn to make meditation, intentional affirmations, and intentional visualizations regular habits. When you learn to meditate, you quiet your mind, and a quiet mind yields a focused mind. When you create intentional affirmations versus unintentional affirmations, you materialize your goals. And, intentional visualizations create energy opposed to unintentional visualizations, which drain your energy.

That's it! Six ideas that are the best ways to Destress Yourself. This is a lifestyle and long-term satisfaction that will create happiness, energy, and vitality in your life.

These suggestions will help you overcome any bad habit and assist you in creating the life you never thought you could have. Trust me, I have seen it over and over again, and I promise you, if you take these steps you will create the life you dream of.
Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

If you would like to learn how to meditate, create intentional affirmations, or compose intentional visualizations, check out our FREE tele classes, for this month, on our calendar.

There are only 150 lines available and so it is a first come, first serve basis. However, the audio will be available in our store soon after.

Free Meditation Tele Class 9:30 a.m. Pacific (12:30 Eastern), Saturday, February 13, 2010.

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access code 205356#

MEET YOU THERE!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Elizabeth Stanfill
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destressyourself.blogspot.com
661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

FREE Learning To Relax Audio

2010-02-01T17:18:00.000-08:00

Hey everyone,

I just posted my last Teleclass, Learning To Relax, for FREE at destressyourself.com.

Check it out, you can listen now or right click to download it to your computer.

I hope you enjoy....

Elizabeth

Do You Have The Hurry-Up Disease???

2010-02-01T12:17:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Happy Monday!

I hope you had a wonderful weekend. I had a fantabulous weekend. The entire Stanfill Family was together to celebrate my Nephew's return from Canada. It has been over two years since we have seen him and it was a blast!

Lately, I have been discussing the H-U Disease with friends and clients. The Hurry-Up Disease is when we are mentally and emotionally affected because we believe we are in a hurry. For example, my friend was saying that she was in line, at one of those warehouse stores that you buy in bulk to save, and she began to be impatient because she wanted them to Hurry-Up.

I get the Hurry-Up Disease when I am loading my computer and it is taking too long.

Do you have the Hurry-Up Disease?

Do you get impatient, frustrated, or angry when you want someone or something to Hurry-Up?

Do you get behind someone on the freeway, when they are going the speed limit, and then get frustrated when they don't Hurry-Up?

When you are going somewhere and you are waiting for a friend or family member, do you get anxious because you want them to Hurry-Up?

Do you get impatient or angry when the checker at the store is taking too long and you want him/her to Hurry-Up?

Do you walk fast, talk fast, or eat fast because you believe that you are in a hurry?

When we get the Hurry-Up Disease, we experience negative emotions, and when we experience negative emotions they imitate the stress response. The Hurry-Up Disease is a very stressful habit.

Recognize when you have the Hurry-Up Disease and then take action to Destress Yourself by activating the relaxation response. If you do not know what the relaxation response is, please visit our home page destressyourself.com, and listen to the free audio, Learning How to Relax, for FREE!
Have a wonderful rest of the week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

2010-01-25T11:32:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend... ;-) Happy Monday!

I hope you had a great weekend! I did some snow shoveling and it was very good for me. It showed me that I could be in a little better shape, lol!

I have five major web sites, Destress Yourself, Destress Yourself Blog, Destress for the EMS, Elizabeth Stanfill (which is our newsletter archive), and Frazier Park, CA. I also have some research tools to each of these web sites, that show me what people type into the search engine to get to my web sites. Really cool huh? I love that stuff!

The number one phrase that is used, everyday, to get to my websites is, "How to Destress Yourself."

Everyday, I am helping people to 'destress yourself'.

If I only had a few minutes to talk with you and you really needed help to Destress Yourself, this is what I would tell you.

There is a stress response, better known as the 'fight or flight' response, that is activated when we face stressful situations. When the stress response is activated it increases our heart rate, respiration rate, blood pressure, blood circulation, and causes our blood-flows and many other body functions to shift.

Now, not everyone reacts to each situation the same way because we all think differently. Our reactions (thoughts about a situation) are what causes this stress response. So, a situation happens (it could be anything), we see it as stressful (we think doubt, fear, and worry), and then our stress response kicks in.

Negative emotions like anger, frustration, disgust, sadness, anxiety, irritation, aggravation, hatred, misery, depression, grief, and nervousness, imitate the stress response. So every time you have a negative emotion (for some, this could be all day long) you are creating wear and tear on your body.

SIDE NOTE: these negative emotions are standard and repetitive for many (the stressed) and that is why I call them habitual ways of reacting. These habitual ways of reacting can be decreased and eliminated.

So, in order to Destress Yourself, you must discover how, when, and why you are activating this stress response, and then learn how to decrease and ultimately eliminate it. Or, you could just change your negative reactions. This may be very easy or this may be very difficult, it just depends on your willingness and commitment.

Let me give you and example of activating the stress response. A very stressed out person has a habit of worrying about everything because of the way they look at the world and a very relaxed person has a habit of having faith about most things because of the way they look at the world.

So, if I were to ask a question like, "I wonder what is going to happen to our economy?" A stressed out person would think and talk about all the things that could go wrong, all the while experiencing the negative emotions mentioned above. A relaxed person would think and talk about all of the positive things that are in store for us and experience more positive emotions.

When the stressed out person starts to think and talk about all the things that could go wrong, guess what? That's right, the stress response kicks in. The stress response may kick in all day long for this person because of the way they think. Their thought process is full of doubt, fear, and worry (stressful). Not only does this person have a very habitual and stressful way of thinking, they also have a very stressful habit of kicking in the stress response.

This stress response is causing emotional illnesses like depression and anxiety, mental illnesses like a racing mind, the inability to concentrate, and indecisiveness, and physical illnesses like gastrointestinal problems, head aches, neck aches, and shoulder aches from the tension.

This stress response is causing individuals to do things, that they think make them feel better, like binge eating, drinking, smoking, numbing through drugs and medication, as well as immoral behavior like addiction to pornography or inappropriate sexual behavior.

This stress response is wearing out the mind and body and therefore, causes exhaustion and fatigue. This causes mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual exhaustion, also known as Burnout.

STRESS IS THE NUMBER ONE CAUSE OF EVERY ILLNESS! I believe this with all my heart and if you knew what I know, and see the things I see, and have seen, you would believe it too.

The best way to Destress Yourself is with education and action. Last week we discussed that "IT IS TIME' to take responsibility for your life.

Take responsibility for your life by learning how, when, and why you are activating the stress response. The best way to do this is by learning to relax. I mean really learn how to relax, which is the opposite of the stress response. We can call it the relaxation response.

Once you learn to relax, or activate the relaxation response, you will be very skilled at noticing when you are activating the stress response because of your awareness. When you learn to relax you become more aware of your mind and body because of your ability to implement the relaxation response at anytime and anywhere.

You have a choice, you can activate the stress response, which is unintentional, or you can activate the relaxation response, which is intentional. That is the difference between a stressed out person, who lives their life unintentionally, and a relaxed person, who lives their life full of intention.

With that said, I would like you to join me for our FREE Tele Class on, you guessed it, Learning to Relax.

This Wednesday, January 27, 2010, at 7 am Pacific Time (10 am Eastern).

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access Code 205356#

Meet You There!

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

elizabeth@destressyourself.com

IT IS TIME!

2010-01-20T06:17:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend

I hope you are having a great week! I know I am! We got some serious snow yesterday, within 3 hours. Yaye!!! I love it!

Well, I have something very important to tell you today, and that is IT IS TIME! It is time that we take responsibility for our lives.

Do you think that life use to be easy? Do you think that life is difficult? It doesn't really matter how you answered the questions because, it is just a thought. And that, my friend, is what I want to talk to you about.

It is time that we take responsibility for our thoughts. When we take responsibility for our thoughts, we take responsibility for our lives.

We can choose to think anything that we want. We have a choice, we can think life is hard or we can think that life is comfortable. It is just a thought and it is just what we choose to believe.

Wait! Before you start to rationalize or defend your, "life is hard" theory, let me explain a few things.

We all know that the meaning of a word is relative. What I mean by this is, when anyone says, "I had a bad day," the word bad is relative.

If someone yells at you, you may think, that person has problems, and then move on, thinking nothing of it. Another person could think, that person ruined my day because he yelled at me. Therefore, that same person says they are having a bad day. Do you see the difference?

To me, a bad day means loosing a limb, or a friend, or a family member. If someone yells at me, I do not let it affect my day, because it is them yelling (their choice). They chose to get angry and yell. That was their choice, and I have more important things to think about than 'THINKING' someone spoiled my day. That is my choice.

There is a quote that says, "What you think of me is none of my business." And I believe this to be true.

Part of destressing yourself is learning to choose, to lighten up on your thoughts. It is choosing to stop making things bigger and to start making things less significant. For example, your definition of a bad day.

You may say, "But Elizabeth, I have some serious problems, I am going to loose my house, I have lost my job, and life is hard for me."

We, as humans, have been loosing our homes and jobs for centuries, and yet we survive. I truly don't mean to sound unkind, what I mean is, we must think that no matter what, we can handle it. We must overcome our thoughts of fear and of the worst things that can happen, and start building goals and confidence that we can achieve them.

We must learn to choose to think more favorably about our circumstances because it is the way we think that causes our stress.

If we choose to think with doubt, fear, and worry we create stress in our lives. If we choose to think with confidence, faith, and hope, not only will we destress our lives, we will make more productive decisions.

If all of this is hard for you to come to terms with, let me help you. I have helped thousands of people take responsibility for their thoughts, so they may destress their lives.

We can do it. The only reason we haven't is, we don't believe we can, and we have never been taught how to or that we can.

Remember, believe that you can.

It is time my friend. If you would like to destress yourself and your life, then you must take responsibility for your life and that means what and how you are thinking.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations!

Elizabeth Stanfill

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661-877-7800

elizabeth@destressyourself.com

TeleClass Reminder

2010-01-15T07:47:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

I hope you are having a great week!

Please join me for our Destress Your Attitude Teleclass.

This Saturday, January 16, 2009, at 8 a.m. Pacific Time (11 a.m. Eastern).

The dial in number is 1-213-289-0500

The access code is 205356#

Meet you there!

Have a wonderful day!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

DO YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN?

2010-01-11T09:34:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

How are you this wonderful Monday? I hope you are great!

Last week I wrote about setting goals and this week I would like to ask you if you believe you can? What I mean is, do you believe that you have the ability to accomplish any goal you set your mind to, with ease and comfort?

Ask yourself, "Do I have the ability to accomplish any goal I set my mind to, with ease and comfort?

I BELIEVE!!! I believe you do and I believe I do.

In order to accomplish any goal that we set, we must believe that we can. So many people set goals and never accomplish them because deep down inside their self-confidence and self-esteem are so low that they do not believe it is possible.

It may sound simple and it may sound silly but it is true.

When you say to yourself, "I have the ability to accomplish any goal I set my mind to, with ease and comfort." Do you think and feel like you do? Do you think and feel that this is true?

A big part of Destressing Yourself is eliminating doubt and creating faith in yourself, others, and in life.

So, when you make the statement above you should believe it, believe that you can. If you don't believe that you can, say to yourself, "I have the ability to accomplish any goal I set my mind to, with ease and comfort."

Now, write it down, memorize it, say it to yourself often, and say it until you believe it.

Do this my friend, and I guarantee, if you don't believe it, you will. You gotta have faith!

If you would like to learn more about having faith in yourself, others, and in life, please join me for our Destress Your Attitude Teleclass.

This Saturday, January 16, 2009, at 8 a.m. Pacific Time (11 a.m. Eastern).

The dial in number is 1-213-289-0500

The access code is 205356#
Meet you there!

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

Destress Yourself 2010

2010-01-04T09:59:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Thank you, thank you, thank you, to all of you, who participated in our teleclass, last Saturday. That was a lot of fun and I promise to do more teleclasses this year.

I am very excited! We are in the beginning of a New Year and it can be very exciting because we can evaluate our lives and set new goals. We can wipe the slate clean and start a new.

If you do not do New Years Resolutions, I would love to encourage you to because setting goals and improving ourselves is what life is all about. If we are not setting goals, we are in the constant state of going nowhere. When we are in the constant state of going nowhere we are stagnant. When we are stagnant, life rarely gets better.

In our teleclass, Setting Goals to Destress Yourself, we discussed stressful habits and how to turn them into successful habits. Check it out, set some goals, and watch yourself create faith, in yourself and others, and make explosive jumps in your personal and professional performance.

Let's start the New Year right!!! Let's set some goals and create happiness and success, in other words, destress yourself.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

Setting Goals to Destress Yourself Teleclass

2010-01-01T15:29:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Just a reminder to join me for the SETTING GOALS TO DESTRESS YOURSELF teleclass.

Tomorrow, Saturday, January 02, 2010 at 9:30 a.m. Pacific Time (12:30 p.m. Eastern Time).

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access code 205356#

It's been a while since we have had a teleclass, I am very excited, and I hope to meet you there.

Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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661-877-7800
elizabeth@destressyourself.com

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

2009-12-29T18:50:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

I hope you had a Wonderful Wonderful Christmas...

Every day I talk to someone who is sick, drained, over weight, smokes, or drinks, and they swear they have no stress. Well, everyone has stress and the reason most people don't know they have stress is because they are truly unaware of what it is.

There are three components to stress and they include any situation that may cause stress (a stressor), our reaction, and then the stress response.

A stressful situation may be something like facing the unknown, a break-up in a relationship, money problems, difficulties at school, difficulties at work, difficulties at home, or just difficulties. Some severely stressful situations, or stressors, may include death, dying, divorce, or devastation.

Our reactions, to a stressor, includes our thoughts, feelings, and actions usually of doubt, fear, or worry. When we have a situation that we react with doubt, fear, or worry our stress response is triggered. The stress response is the well known 'fight or flight' reaction.

Those are the three components to stress and yet there is more to this stress thing. For every action there is a reaction and so the biggest and most painful part of stress is the results.

Cognitive results may include focusing on the negative, difficulty concentrating, weak memory, a racing mind, worry, or fear that we will not be able to handle it.

Emotional results may include anger, irritability, loneliness, despair, depression, anxiety, sadness, or discontent.

Physical results may include body aches and pains, dizziness, nausea, weakness, a drop in the immune system, gastrointestinal problems, heart palpitations, an increase in heart rate and respiration rate, or decrease in libido.

Behavioral results may include over or under eating, the inability to fall asleep, stay asleep, or sleep at all, sleeping too much, withdrawal from others, procrastination, an increase in the use of alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax, lack of impulse control, severe mood swings, or nervousness.

Stress is the number one cause of all illnesses whether cognitive, emotional, physical, or behavioral. And, if you recognize one or more of the above mentioned, in you, chances are very high that you have stress. We want to find out what that stress is and overcome it so that we may eliminate the results.

If you would like to find out more about your stress and eliminating the results please join me for SETTING GOALS TO DESTRESS YOURSELF teleclass

This Saturday, January 02, 2010 at 9:30 a.m. Pacific Time (12:30 p.m. Eastern Time).

Dial in number 1-213-289-0500

Access code 205356#

It's been a while since we have had a teleclass, I am very excited, and I hope to meet you there.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget, I have permanently reduced the price on some audios in our store, and I have cut prices by 50% on the others, which includes releasing worry and deep relaxation, for a limited time.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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The Gift Of Giving

2009-12-21T15:48:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope you are having a wonderful Holiday Season.

One of my favorite things to do, in the whole wide world, is to give. I give of myself and I give help where it is needed. Giving is my purpose, it is my passion, and it makes me feel absolutely wonderful.

Why do I love to give? Because that is one of the most important things in life. When we give to others we are making the world a better place and it makes us feel better about ourselves. Giving of ourselves, to make the world a better place, is the Gift of Giving.

If you feel down or worried about something like finances or missing a loved one, you can help yourself enjoy the Holidays by giving to another. When I say give to another I am not talking about buying an expensive gift. Heck, I am not talking about buying a gift at all. I am talking about visiting someone who is down and out, bringing some baked goods to a neighbor who needs cheering up, or just calling a relative or friend who is lonely at this time of year.

Would you like to help someone, and yourself, feel better? Would you like to make your Holiday Season a memorable one? Then think of a person, or persons, that you can give to right now! Right here, right now!

I challenge you! I challenge you to think of someone who can use your help, your time, your ear, your shoulder, or your kindness and give to them. Give to them today and watch yourself feel better about your own life. And then, do it again, and again.

After all, that is what destressing yourself is all about, feeling better about yourself and your life. Trust me, I am an expert, lol...

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget, I have permanently reduced the price on some audios in our store, and I have cut prices by 50% on the others, which includes releasing worry and deep relaxation, for a limited time.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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Detress Yourself With Refocus

2009-12-14T15:53:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope that you are wonderful today!!!

I am so grateful for you and I appreciate all you do!!!

Did you know that there are 2 weeks and 4 days until the New Year? That's right, 2010!

Aye Caramba!

You know what that means don't you? That means it is time to make our New Year Resolutions. What? You don't make New Year Resolutions? Well, it is time that you started.

Why should you make New Year Resolutions? Because it is a great reason to set goals and we all should have goals. The best goals to have are the ones that destress yourself.

Whatever is stressing you out, money/finances, weight/health, relationships, or your career, you can set goals to change your situation.

Hence, Destress Yourself With Refocus.

Why wait until the New Year? Why don't you make a list of the things you want to change, right now? Thats right, make a list, right now!

When we are stressed, we focus only on what is consuming us with worry and fear, right now. This focus is a waste of our time and energy. So, refocus and put your mind on and energy towards what you want.

When we refocus and put our minds on and energy towards what we want we are solution focused rather than overwhelmed and consumed with what is stressing us out.

I ask you, what do you want? What would be the best thing in the whole world for you? More Spirituality, a better relationship, or maybe, better health?

Make the decision my friend, and refocus by setting the goal now. You can do it! I have faith in you! You have the power!

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget, I have permanently reduced the price on some audios in our store, and I have cut prices by 50% on the others, which includes releasing worry and deep relaxation, for a limited time.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

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Destress Yourself for the Holidays

2009-12-07T11:54:00.000-08:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope that you are wonderful today!!!

I am so grateful for you and I appreciate all you do!!!

Today, I would like to say a little bit about the holidays and destressing. We get so busy during the holidays and being prepared is a huge way to destress yourself. So, here are four things we can do to be prepared and help relieve stress for the holidays.

1. Take care of yourself by eating right, exercising, and getting plenty of rest. In other words, do not overindulge! It takes energy to handle a busy schedule for the holidays and when we overindulge by eating too unhealthy, eating too much, not exercising, and not getting enough rest, we can get very tired. If you overindulge, you will end up loosing your energy.

2. Manage your activities. Make a list of all the things you need to do, prioritize that list, and then schedule, in your calendar, all the things you have on the list.

3. Manage your money. Know your budget, make a list of all the people you have to buy presents for, list all the things you have to buy, and then budget accordingly. This may mean you have to spend less on someone or something, or you may have to eliminate someone or something. When we reduce costs, where they are needed, we won't get in a financial bind.

4. Ask for help. If you need help because you are overwhelmed, ask family or friends to help with tasks. If you are low on funds, ask people, you are inviting over, to bring their favorite dish. They will be honored! I love to do this because I love to bring people things especially my baked or cooked goodies.

This list is full of simple things that you may already do. My goal is to remind you, and me, to be prepared for the holidays and consider things that will make life easier and more pleasant thus, destressing yourself.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Don't forget, I have permanently reduced the price on some audios in our store, and I have cut prices by 50% on the others, which include releasing worry and deep relaxation, for a limited time.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

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Destress Yourself in the Midst of Crisis

2009-10-19T12:52:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

One of the things that I help people with every week is Crisis. We are having to deal with death, dying, divorce, loss of a job, or harassment at work, among other things.

In order to 'destress yourself', we must decrease our stress and replace it with feeling good. We can destress in the midst of crisis and I want to give you a small list of things that can show you how.

1. Know that you are going to handle this! We have had severe challenges throughout our lives and we have survived. Therefore, we know that we can handle it.

2. Set some goals. Decide what you want! When we have a crisis our mind is consumed with the particular turmoil and in order to destress we must replace our turmoil, in our minds, with something more positive.

3. Focus on your goals diligently and effortlessly. Decide what you want and what you want out of life. WHAT DO YOU WANT? If we consume ourselves with something we want and focus on that alone we replace our stressful thoughts with more positive thoughts. With positive thoughts comes positive feelings, with positive feelings comes positive actions, and with positive thoughts, feelings, and actions, comes a positive attitude.

4. Know that no matter what is going on in our lives we can still have joy and be playful. Often times when we are stressed out we are so consumed with worry that we do not allow ourselves to enjoy life. This is a horribly stressful habit. We all have problems, it is called life, and we all will have crisis. We must learn how, if we do not know how, to enjoy life and be playful even though we have crisis. How do we do this? It is not easy but with practice comes perfection. In order to enjoy life and be playful we must set our worry aside by quieting our minds and learning how to destress our stressful habits.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you have not, please add me as a friend on facebook, Elizabeth M. Stanfill.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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Destress Yourself With Service

2009-10-08T17:37:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

I hope you are having a wonderful day!

One of the things I am so very grateful for is helping others. There is no division between my personal and professional life because I believe in and love helping others.

Whether it be helping someone move, giving a person food to eat, providing free crisis intervention, or giving of my time voluntarily, I love to help. The opportunity to serve others is a gift and we can find happiness within this gift.

From a very young age, I was aware of how good it feels to help others, and that is what I am meant to do.

There are so many "whys" we should help others. Just to name a few, because it helps someone in need, it lifts another's burden, we all need help, it makes the world a better place, it is what we are suppose to do, and it makes us feel good.

In order to 'destress yourself', we must decrease our stress and replace it with feeling good. My plea is this, 'destress yourself' by serving others and watch yourself become an expert at feeling good.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to ask yourself, "Who can I help today?" and ask it every day.

When we ask ourselves this question everyday, and follow through with it, we will create a successful practice. We know that successful practices decrease and replace our stressful habits.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

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Elizabeth Stanfill
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Eliminate Procrastination

2009-09-09T11:38:00.001-07:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope you had a wonderful Labor Day weekend!

What I want to discuss today is the very stressful habit of procrastination. That is right, procrastination is a habit. Like any other stressful habit, it must be eliminated and replaced with a successful practice.

One of the reasons that we procrastinate is because we don't believe we will find pleasure in the activity we are suppose to be doing. Another reason we procrastinate is, we find pleasure in the activity we indulge in when we procrastinate. And the biggest reason we procrastinate is because it is a very solid habit.

So what do we do to eliminate procrastination? I am so glad you asked. First, find some pleasure in the outcome of the activity that you are suppose to be doing and visualize the positive outcome. Second, list all of the procrastinating habits you indulge in for example, talking on the phone, watching TV, going on the internet, checking your email, texting, or going on facebook. Next, set a certain amount of time, first thing in the morning or at the end of your day, to do the procrastinating activities. Finally, create a successful practice of accomplishing tasks. In other words, just do it!

If you remove your procrastinating activities, see and feel the positive outcome of the activity you are suppose to be doing, and just do the task that needs to be done, you will create a wonderful habit of productivity.

I know, I know, it is easier said than done but, try it and you will notice those procrastinating activities and how they are wasting your day.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

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Elizabeth Stanfill
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OVERCOME BURNOUT

2009-08-24T09:53:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

Well, Summer is slowly coming to an end and before we know it we are in the Holidays. The Holiday Season is a very busy time for most and can burn us out. So, my question to you is, are you already burned out? The reason I ask this is, when we are burned out we can reevaluate our lives so that we may regenerate our energy and therefore, be more prepared for the Holidays.

How do we know if we are burned out? Here are some questions for us.

1) Are you physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually exhausted?

2) Are you cynical?

3) Are you ineffective?

If we answer yes to these questions then we may be burned out.

What should we do if we are burned out? As mentioned earlier, we should reevaluate our lives so that we may regenerate our energy.

How do we reevaluate our lives? Here are some more questions for us.

1) Are you eating right and eating for energy?

2) Are you getting plenty of sleep at night?

3) Do you have a positive attitude?

4) Do you have habits that generate energy?

5) Are you exercising?

6) Are you having fun?

If we answer no to any of these questions then we know what areas, in our lives, we should work on. We can make a list of all the areas we answered no on, prioritize them, and then set some goals to improve so that we can overcome or prevent burnout.

If you would like more free information on overcoming burnout please visit destressyourself.com, sign up for our free newsletter, download our free audios on stress management, or purchase our Overcoming Burnout audio, in our store.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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DESTRESS YOUR DAY

2009-08-17T10:24:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

Here is a pithy list for you on how to destress your day.

1. First thing in the morning, make a list of six things that have to be done today.
2. Prioritize this list numbering each one from the most important to the least.
3. Make a commitment to do the list starting with the most important.
4. If you only get one thing done, don't beat yourself up. Be pleased that you accomplished something.
5. If you don't get one thing done, don't beat yourself up. Be pleased you did the list and know that you are thinking about moving forward.
6. Be satisfied with what ever you do or don't do. Being satisfied is but a state of mind.

There you have it! My pithy list on destressing your day.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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DESTRESS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

2009-08-10T10:51:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

A wise woman, not too long ago, told me, "we allow people to treat us the way they treat us." Do you believe that? I do. I also believe that we should give, in a relationship, what we want back. In other words, if we want love, kindness, and honesty, then we should give love, kindness, and honest.

So, how do we de-stress our relationships? Here is a pithy list for you...

1. We show and communicate to people how to treat us, the way we want to be treated.

2. We give specific behavior, in our relationships, that we want to experience in return.

3. We spend more time with people who increase our energy with their positive attitude and spend less time with people who drain our energy with their negative attitude and their complaining.

There you have it! My pithy list on de-stressing our relationships. This works in all personal and professional relationships.

I have a feeling I am going to get a lot of emails on this one...

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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elizabeth@destressyourself.com

DENIAL - THE #1 SIGN OF STRESS

2009-07-20T13:36:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

Happy Monday! I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

Did you know that denial is the number one sign of stress? In the medical field, a "sign" is something the medical professional can see and a symptom is something that the patient describes.

When we are in denial we are usually unaware. We are unaware of the denial and unaware of the stress we are causing ourselves.

Denial is something I see quite frequently in people who come to me for help.

Often times when people come to me they have high levels of stress. What I do is help them understand their stressful habits that are causing unhappiness so that they may create successful practices. But, if they are in denial they cannot overcome their stressful habits.

The other day, someone said to me, "there is always room for improvement." When she said it, it was like she was saying something she thought I wanted to hear. When she was saying it, I knew she didn't believe it because she didn't want any change at all. How do I know that someone doesn't want change? I know because of their excuses.

If we have excuses why we can't change our behavior or why our life is the way it is, then we are in denial. What I mean by excuses is, instead of trying something new, since what we are doing isn't working, we have reasons why we cannot try something new.

If what we are doing is not working, we must try something new. The only way we get improvement is by trying something new, not by doing the same thing harder.

So many people come to me for help and they want me to fix things when the truth is, only they can fix things. As I always say, you are the boss of you. You are the only thinker of your thoughts. You are the only feeler of your feelings. You are the only actor of your actions.

It is time to take responsibility! Take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. We can take responsibility of our thoughts by thinking about what we want and how to get it. We can take responsibility for our feelings by getting excited about life and feeling motivated. We can take responsibility for our actions by moving towards solutions to our problems and moving towards enjoying life. We can take responsibility for our attitude by being positive.

WE GOT THE POWER!

If you are having a hard time with your stress, email me, elizabeth@destressyourself.com or call me 661-877-7800, and let me help you discover how to destress yourself.

There is no reason anyone should not live with happiness, energy, and vitality no matter what they are going through.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

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Elizabeth Stanfill
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ARE YOU JOYFULLY ENDURING TO THE END?

2009-07-13T13:35:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...

Happy Monday! I hope you had a wonderful weekend! I did!

Sooo, my question today is, are you joyfully enduring to the end? Enduring to the end, in the gospel sense, means living faithfully to the laws given by God. In the non spiritual sense, enduring to the end means that when the going gets tough, the tough get going.

Seems like everyone I know has stress. Some have stress worse than others because they have different ways of handling or reacting to things. But, no matter what, when we have high levels of stress things get difficult.

There is a grand purpose to life and part of that purpose is for us to learn to enjoy life no matter what comes our way. We have to endure to the end and we can do it joyfully no matter what happens to us.

If we have financial, relationship, health, or career problems, we can focus on our solutions. When we focus on the problem it is difficult to enjoy life and we get overwhelmed by our stress. When we focus on our solutions we move towards what we want. We must always focus on our solutions and never, ever, ever give up.

Focusing on our solutions is easy. Just ask yourself, everyday, "what can I do, today, to solve my problem?" And then do at least one thing. If we do one thing a day, we are focusing on our solutions and building confidence and faith in ourselves. If one solution doesn't work, think of another one but, never, ever, ever give up.

If you cannot think of a solution then Google it! Google the world wide web, the information highway, for a solution.

When we build confidence and faith in ourselves we can focus on enjoying our life while enduring to the end, rather than stressing about our problem.

If you are having a hard time with life, email me, elizabeth@destressyourself.com or call me 661-877-7800. We can work together and figure out solutions so that you may joyfully endure to the end.

There is no reason anyone should not live with happiness, energy, and vitality no matter what they are going through.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful, it's in your nature.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and creating successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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elizabeth@destressyourself.com

WHERE IS YOUR FOCUS?

2009-06-29T20:05:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

Happy Monday! I hope you had the best weekend ever! I know I did!

Sooo, where is your focus? What are you focusing on? The reason I ask these questions is because whatever we focus on creates our consequences. If we are focusing on all the things that are wrong or all the things that can go wrong then we create stress for ourselves. If we focus on happiness and love then we create joy for ourselves.

Sooo, what are you focusing on? Me, myself, and I try to focus on the moment that I am in. When I focus on the moment that I am in I can enjoy the person I am with or the place that I am at. Honestly, this may sound silly but, I am the type of person that can enjoy doing the dishes because I am focusing on joy.

If I may, I would like to suggest focusing on joy, happiness, love, the moment you are in, and the things you want in life.

A very stressful habit is focusing on what is wrong or on what we think is our misery. Well, guess what? We have the power to focus on anything we want. Thats right! Whatever we want!

Let us create a successful practice of focusing on what is good in our life and on what we want, believe me there is plenty of good and we can have what we want if we just focus.

Here is a little exercise that you may want to try in order to change the stressful habit of focusing on what is wrong, to the successful practice of focusing on what you want.

Step one, write down three goals.

Step two, make a list of all the things you have to do to accomplish these goals.

Step three, read this list every morning, and if you are motivated, every night.

Watch what happens...

This is such a simple exercise, and you may have heard something similar from me before. Even so, I would venture to say you may get excited about these goals and start to accomplish them. You will also focus on what you want and when you do this you create inspiration rather than stress.

If you do not have goals you are probably in the constant state of going nowhere which is very stressful. Do yourself a favor and do the exercise, you will be happy you did.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Please email me if you have any questions, I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to learn more about eliminating stressful habits and create successful practices, purchase the destress yourself classes here.

Destress Yourself with Affirmations

Elizabeth Stanfill
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elizabeth@destressyourself.com

MY STRESS

2009-05-11T16:50:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend... :-)

Happy Monday! How was your weekend? Did you love it? I did. Actually, that is a lie.

Last Thursday, I was shopping with my Mother, and I received a call from my son. He was in the back of an ambulance on the way to the emergency room. He was riding his motorcycle, was cut off, and then crashed. The only thing he told me was he was in a lot of pain and the name of the hospital he was going to.

OH MY GOSH! I was in shock. I was numb. I had to tell my Mother, who hates motorcycles, that we had to go to the emergency room because her grandson was involved in a motorcycle accident.

When we arrived at the emergency room, he wasn't checked in yet. Having run 911 calls for years, I knew to head over to the ambulance entrance to wait for him. That is exactly where he was, strapped to a back board, with a c-spine collar, all of his clothes cut off, and on the gurney. He was bleeding from every extremity, several different body parts, and had severe flesh wounds.

OH MY GOSH! This was an awakening and yet I was in shock. As I went into the emergency room with him and the paramedics, one paramedic was talking to me and, at first, I didn't even hear a word he said to me.

Later, my Mother was talking to me and I didn't even hear a word she was saying to me. As I tell you this story, my chest is tight and it is four days later.

How in the heck do I handle something like this? After the shock, and after the crying (in private, of course, I still am an emergency worker deep down), I practice what I preach. This is literally what I told myself. I told myself, "you need to practice what you preach.

This is what I did, I remained calm throughout the incident. I remembered that my Mother nagging me about how the motorcycle is so dangerous is normal and her way of dealing with stress. I told myself that this is a part of life and things like this happen. I reassured myself that everything will be okay, no matter what, because it always is. I looked at the good in this situation. The good being that my son is still alive, although in severe pain. And, first, foremost, and finally, I prayed. I prayed for strength and I prayed with gratitude that my son is alive, will be okay, and for all that we have.

In order to manage my own stress, I had to be my own coach, my own cheerleader, and my own support. I don't know if that makes sense but, when we have stress we must try to be at our best so that we can handle things better.

My son is fine, he is in severe pain, and will be for several weeks, and that makes me cry. It hurts to see someone you love in pain. We have a lot of great friends, who have been over everyday with food, movies, and great attitudes to cheer him up and give him faith. He received a blessing and he will be fine.

DEEP SIGH!

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Thank you for all your emails, I am still excited about 2009.

FUN THINGS TO DO TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

Elizabeth Stanfill
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2009-04-27T16:21:00.001-07:00

Hi everyone, I posted an episode to my podcast, elizabethstanfills Podcast. Click this link to check it out: ARE YOU MANAGING YOUR STRESS - Elizabeth

DESTRESS AND WEIGHT LESS

2009-04-20T12:20:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...

Happy Monday! Are you ready to Destress and Weight Less?

Please join us this Wednesday morning, at 6 am Pacific time/9 am Eastern, April 22, 2009, for our Destress and Weight Less Teleclass. We will talk about how we can Destress and Weight Less by discussing our stressful habits that we have and turning them into successful practices.

Dial in Number 1-309-946-5100

Access code 205356#

Please be on time for class because there are limited number of lines. Although this class is free, long distance charges apply. If you miss this class, it will be available in our store within a few days for a small fee.

I am very excited about this class because being over weight or unhealthy is very high on the list of things that stress people out. This is gonna be fun! I can't wait!

Just a reminder, the majority of Destress Yourself Products, in our store, will be 50 to 75% off for limited time. Enjoy!

If you are stressed out, please take responsibility for your life, have an open mind, and change your stressful habits by studying these newsletters, participate in the free teleclasses, apply what you learn, and go to our website and download the free stress management podcasts.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Thank you for all of your emails, I am still excited about 2009!

DESTRESS YOURSELF BY WAKING UP GRATEFUL EVERY DAY!

Elizabeth Stanfill
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elizabeth@destressyourself.com

DESTRESS YOURSELF BAILOUT/STIMULUS PLAN

2009-04-13T06:45:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...

Happy Monday!

I cannot resist! I must ride the Bailout/Stimulus gravy train. Starting April 15, the day our taxes are due, the majority of Destress Yourself Products, in our store, will be 50 to 75% off. Enjoy!

Last week, I said I would continue to discuss more about stressful habits and suggestions on how to change them.

A common stressful habit is looking at and focusing on what is wrong with ourselves and our lives. When we focus on what is wrong in ourselves and our lives it can cause stress because we can become discontent. When we are discontent we are unhappy.

When we focus on what is great about ourselves and our lives we become grateful and satisfied. When we feel grateful and satisfied we are happy.

Unhappiness equals stress and happiness equals success.

Focusing on what is wrong is a stressful habit and focusing on what is great is a successful practice.

The reason we may focus on what is wrong is, throughout our lives, it has been, and still is, very common for us to be corrected and disciplined for doing things that are incorrect. It is not as common to be complimented or praised for doing things right or perfect. Therefore, the focus is on the negative.

We have wonderful, positive, and good things in our lives. We do things perfectly, we do things right, and we have wonderful characteristics.

Let us practice focusing on what is great in ourselves and our lives. Let us practice complimenting and praising ourselves and others for doing things right and perfect.

I am convinced that we can find the good things in ourselves, in ourlives, and in others. We have great blessings and we are amazing, brilliant, and magnificent. If you do not believe this, come work with me, and I will demonstrate to you how to, and prove that you can, obtain this belief.

This belief is a very successful practice and when you destress yourself you discover and eliminate your stressful habits and create successful practices.

If you are stressed out, please take responsibility for your life, have an open mind, and change your stressful habits by studying these newsletters, apply what you learn, and go to our website and download the free stress management podcasts.

Until next week, don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Thank you for all of your emails, I am still excited about 2009!

DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Elizabeth Stanfill
destressyourself.com
destressyourself.blogspot.com
661-877-7800

elizabeth@destressyourself.com

YOUR GONNA LOVE THIS!

2009-03-08T22:00:00.000-07:00

Greetings my friend...Happy Monday;)

I hope you had a wonderful Weekend.

I want to share this particular post with you. My new found friend, Saundra Kay, from Dallas, TX, has a de-stress blog, please, click here, and read, but only if you would like to de-stress with a good laugh.

Also, leave a comment on her blog, she would love to hear from you.

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful; it is in your nature.

I am still very excited about 2009!

Thank you for all of the emails. I am grateful for you.

Elizabeth Stanfill
destressyourself.com
destressyourself.blogspot.com
661-877-7800

elizabeth@destressyourself.com

MY COACH

2009-02-07T17:15:00.000-08:00

My Coach, Marti Bay, is the best.

We spoke this morning and she has me on task and doing homework (I call it homework).

When she and I spoke last week we spent the whole session on prioritizing my work load and determining what I need to do first, second, third, etc.

Yes, yes, yes, I know, prioritizing tasks is easy but when you own your own business it is much better to process it with someone.

Do you have a coach? Coaches and Mentors are the best thing to have when you want to move forward in life. I believe this because they are there for YOU and they help YOU accomplish what YOU want.

If you are a coach, you should have a coach. If you do not, what you are saying is you do not practice what you preach.

If you have a business, you should have a coach. If you do then you will make leaps and bounds towards your goals. In addition, your goals will be greater and someone holding you accountable will help you accomplish more.

My coach, Marti, does not know I am posting about her, but I don't think she will mind.

I am sure I will tell her. Thank you Marti, I am grateful for you and what you do for me.

Elizabeth

I MUST BE STRESSED OUT!

2009-02-04T16:06:00.000-08:00

I must be stressed out because, last night, I had a sore throat and I have one again today. I always say, if you are sick it is because you have stress. Well, I must be stressed then.

Any who, last night I took 2 doses of NyQuil and I still feel it today. The sore throat is just returning in the evening. I didn't feel it yesterday, but I felt it last night. I didn't feel it today, but I feel it tonight.

So, what do I do when I am stressed? I practice what I preach. First, eat right, exercise, and get plenty of rest. Second, check my thoughts and what I am thinking about that could be worrying me. Third, check my feelings and make sure I create feelings of happiness and gratitude. Finally, take action! Take action towards what I want.

Do I know what I want. Oh, heck yes, I know what I want. I want three things right now. Number one, I want a closer relationship with Heavenly Father. Why do I want that? I want it because there is a purpose for us being here on earth and He, Heavenly Father, has everything to do with our purpose for being here. I guess I should want a closer relationship with the Savior. I should? I do!

The number two thing that I want is better health. Better eating habits, better exercising habits, and better energy.

The number three thing that I want is more money! The more money I make, the more people I can help. Make sense? It does to me. We have to have money to do things that will help ourselves so that we can help others.

I feel like going to sleep already and it is only 4:25 PM. I should listen to my body but I still have to some more stuff, this evening.

I digress, so, what action can I take towards what I want? Chicken soup for dinner, research, online, how I can make more money, and before I go to sleep, read and study my scriptures. Oh, and pray to my Heavenly Father to help me.

I love life, even though I don't feel too hot.

And, I love you. How do I know if I love you? Because I love everybody. Ask anyone who really knows me.

Elizabeth

DESTRESS FOR THE EMS

2009-01-26T06:00:00.001-08:00

This week I will be teaching the DESTRESS FOR THE EMS teleclass this Wednesday, January 28, 2009, at 7 a.m. Pacific time. All teleclasses are free, for now, and can be accessed by signing up for our free weekly newsletter.

This is one of my favorite classes to teach. I was an emergency responder for many years, I taught Critical Incident Stress Management, I responded to Critical Incidents for first responders as a peer counselor, I trained hundreds of emergency personnel to become peer counselors, and therefore I know how important stress management is for the emergency services.

It is not an easy thing to get Emergency Services Personnel to deal with there stress because they are the hero's and they are not suppose to have weaknesses. Many come to me privately. The only reason I say this is because I would want someone to come to me privately and confidentially because it is better than not getting any help at all.

I love what I do and I am excited for this week. I have taught so many of these classes that I cannot count and yet I still love doing it because I know it makes a difference.

By the way, all of our teleclasses will be one hour earlier next month due to multiple requests from the east coast as well as the west coast.

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful because it is in your nature.

Elizabeth

Destress and Weight Less Teleclass 2009

2009-01-23T06:00:00.000-08:00

This Saturday, January 24, 2009, at 7 a.m. Pacific, we will have our free Destress and Weight Less teleclass. We have this free monthly teleclass to enhance and compliment our Destress and Weight Less Blog.

If you are interested in loosing weight, tips to loose weight, ways to loose weight, how to loose weight, and would like to be a part of a community of individuals who have the same goal, please join our community at Destress and Weight Less Blog.

In order to get access to our free monthly Destress and Weight Less Teleclass you must be signed up to our free weekly newsletter at destress yourself dot com. When you are signed up for our free newsletter you will get the phone number and access code to all of our free teleclasses.

Come join us at destressandweightless.blogspot.com to loose weight together as a community, to share our tips to loose weight, to share our ways to loose weight, and to learn how to loose weight together.

We are currently discussing The 3 Hour Diet, by Jorge Cruise. You can find all of this information on our weight loss blog.

Have a great weekend and don't forget to have fun and be playful, it is in your nature.

Elizabeth

ps if you have any comments or questions please use the comment function on this, or any one of our blogs, and I will comment in return.

THINK AND GROW RICH; FIRST TELECLASS

2009-01-21T17:55:00.000-08:00

Today was the day that I taught my first Think and Grow Rich Teleclass. I had a blast!

My blog, thinkthengrowrich.blogspot.com, is focused on studying the book, Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill.

This book is sooo coool! I have already read it four times, and I have participated in a book study, that concluded last December, in 2008.

We are currently studying one chapter a month. This month we have already gone over the special foreword by Bob Proctor, the editor's foreword, the author's preface, and the introduction. We are ending this month with chapter one.

This is a great book and we are going to have tons of fun.

If you would like to participate in this book study, which you should, then visit my blog and purchase the book on the blog. We are using an original version and it is right there on my blog. You can click on it and buy it from amazon.com.

In a few days, you will be able to purchase the audio of this telelclass, for a small fee, in our store. When participants listen live the teleclass is free. The only way that you may have access to our free teleclasses is by signing up to our free weekly newsletter.

Great excitement and great fun!

Elizabeth

MY GRATITUDE FOR THIS WEEK

2009-01-19T12:15:00.000-08:00

I am so happy and grateful...

This week my best friend came over and stayed for a couple of days. We hung out together, went shopping, ate food, and best of all, we went to the book store. I love the book store and I am a regular or frequent flyer, I should say.

One of the biggest things I am grateful for, this week, is my son, Gary (the handsomest, sweetest, most loving person, in the world) came to sacrament yesterday, with his girlfriend. It has been a while since my son stepped into church and I was glad to see him and sit with him.

Yesterday, in Relief Society, we had so much fun. I love our Relief Society President. She is a jewel. I just love to be around her because she has the Spirit with her, always, and very strong. Well, we always have fun in RS, we have good laughs, and spiritual uplifting.

I am super duper grateful for my parents. I love them both very much and I am blessed to have them in my life. One of the greatest things is we hang out together, once and a while, and I get to talk to them often.

Let me tell you about my coach. My coach, MB (I will use her initials for n0w until I get permission to share her name), is a loving, kind, spiritual person in which I cherish with all my heart. And, she is a great coach but most of all a great friend.

Last, but never least, I love and cherish my Master Mind Group. We speak regularly. Once a week, for our book study. Right now we are doing The Science of Getting Rich. We also talk an additional day for uplifting and sharing purposes.

I am happy and grateful...

Elizabeth

ps please comment on your gratitude, it would be sooo coool.

Elizabeth Stanfill

2009-01-13T12:29:00.000-08:00